Kathryn Beckham
Jeffrey King
Communication skills are important to developing professional and personal relationships. Relationships begin and grow through communication, and the quality of communication influences the quality of the relationships. Effective communication skills are essential. Without them, one's effectiveness in all roles in life- professional, leader, manager, parent, friend, etc.- is limited.
Coalitions have been defined as "individuals or organizations working together in a common effort . . . for a common purpose to provide better services at lower cost." Good communication is required for individuals or individual organizations to establish coalitions, cooperate with one another, determine a common purpose and coordinate efforts. The first step in developing these skills is to understand what communication is, ways we communicate and methods of communication. This is particularly important when working with groups.
Communication is what we do to give and get understanding. It is an exchange of words and meanings, a two-way process of sending and receiving messages. Effective communication occurs when there is shared meaning. The message that is sent is the same message that is received. There must be a mutual understanding between the sender and the receiver for the transmission of ideas or information to be successful.
For members of groups, effective communication may be defined as:
Doing these things leads to increased understanding and effective communication among members.
Effective communication is usually two- way. The two-way communication process includes:
After the first few seconds, interpersonal communication becomes a simultaneous two-way sending and receiving process. While senders are talking, they are receiving nonverbal reactions from receivers. Senders make inferences based on the receivers' reactions and adjust subsequent communication accordingly. For example, they may change their tone, speak loudly or use simpler language. The ability to do this results in the message being better understood. It helps prevent miscommunication.
Sometimes a breakdown occurs in the communication process. The message that was sent is not the message that was received. This can be due to a number of factors that act as barriers to or interfere with effective communication. Some things that can affect the interpretation of messages are:
These factors can lead to a breakdown in the communication process, especially in groups where there is a greater likelihood that one or more of these factors will be present. When a breakdown occurs, the result is miscommunication. The receiver gets a different message than the one intended. The results are usually negative and can include:
Because these results can greatly affect the cohesiveness and effectiveness of a group, it is critical that all members be aware of them and help safeguard against them.
There are at least three important ways we communicate. One way- symbolic communication- we do not often consciously think about, though it has an impact on the ways we react to and behave toward others. The other two ways - verbal and nonverbal communication- are generally better understood.
Symbols can be defined as things that stand for or represent other things or objects that represent something abstract. The interpretation of the Greek word for it is "tokens, pledges or signs by which one infers a thing." Symbols play an important role in our interactions. They are often the basis for many of our reactions to other people and the consequent behaviors. The symbols in our lives include where we work, our job titles, where we live, the vehicles we drive, the clothes and jewelry we wear, etc. It also includes more personal characteristics like age, gender, educational level, ethnic background and cultural heritage. We constantly process this information and "size people up," whether it is those we see on the street or those with whom we interact with frequently. We often make judgments about people based on this symbolic information. The problem with this is that these assumptions are frequently wrong.
Think about attending the first meeting of a community coalition. You do not know the facilitator, who comes in wearing old, worn clothes and is slightly unkempt. He is also loud and boisterous and fails to get the meeting started on time. What is your reaction? Probably not very positive. He lost credibility based on his appearance and behavior before you had the opportunity to meet him. If he had been well dressed and well-mannered, your reaction would be very different. Our behaviors toward people are often based on our observations with no real knowledge of whom the person is or anything about him or her.
Verbal communication is carried out through symbols known as "words." It includes the actual words used to send messages and the way in which they are arranged into thought units. Because words are the primary symbols used in this type of communication, it includes both oral and written communications. Personal conversations, group discussions and speeches, as well as letters and memos, are all forms of verbal communication. Some are spoken and some are written.
Nonverbal communication is the most influential form. If the verbal and nonverbal messages being sent are not in agreement, receivers generally will believe what they "hear" nonverbally. If interpersonal communication is to be effective, people need to send verbal and nonverbal messages that are congruent with one another. For example, if an individual says, "I am not angry!" but has a flushed face, clenched teeth and fists, and speaks in an angry tone of voice, the message that is heard is, "I am very angry!"
There are four major categories of nonverbal communication:
People today have more choices of communication methods than ever before. There are . . .
With so many choices, it is sometimes difficult to know how best to communicate. Keep three things in mind when selecting a method:
If the message is important, it is often best to put it in writing. This is especially true if it is to be sent to several people or there is a need to document that information was shared. If it is an "oh, by the way . . ." type of message intended for one or two people, a phone call or note may do.
Different methods are more effective in some situations than others. For example, if there is no rush in sharing information with group members, distribute a memo at a meeting or put it in the mail. If there is more urgency, it may be appropriate to send it via electronic mail or fax. Keep in mind most people do not have ready access to a fax machine. It may take more time to get the message from the machine to a person.
It is sometimes wise to use a variety of communication methods to send the same message. A good example of this is when an important topic is to be discussed in a meeting. Providing a handout with pertinent information, outlining major points on a chalk board or flip chart and discussing the issue facilitates the process.
Remember that feedback is the lifeline of effective communication. It is easy to get in two way, face-to-face communication. The receiver's reactions to the message (such as, agreement, surprise, boredom, hostility) can tell the sender a great deal. It allows one to get immediate indications of how the message is being received. In this situation, the individuals involved can discuss the message, ask questions for clarification and resolve any misunderstandings. This is far more difficult when using written communication. Writers cannot clarify for readers because they do not see them.
It is especially important to consider these factors when selecting methods to communicate with a group. Remember, you are working with busy people. They have many roles and responsibilities as well as hectic schedules. Use their time wisely!
Effective communication is a skill. It can be learned and improved upon with practice. This is necessary if individuals are to come together and become a group. Through the process of communication- sending and receiving messages - individuals can develop understanding and respect for one another, share information, challenge each to think differently and find the best possible solutions to the issues around which the group has formed.
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